Life

I Choose…

I Choose

I choose to be seen, heard, accepted, loved and chosen…I commit to do the same (coloured words, written on black background)

So, International Women’s Day has been and gone. Lots of articles and videos on great women leaders, carers, adventurers and survivors – which I didn’t read. Of the myriad offerings, I watched one video and read one article on domestic violence. I have a very few observations to share from that which I have either witnessed or experienced:

1. I agree with those who tell us that emotional, verbal, psychological and spiritual abuse, are abuse. Also that one or all of the above are pre-cursors to physical and sexual abuse.

2. I agree with health care professionals, researchers and survivors that violence of any kind, including those above which you may think aren’t really violence, escalates without intervention and doesn’t ever get better by itself. (For Christians reading this, a ‘God moment’ is intervention…by God!)

3. Domestic violence isn’t just from spouses (of whatever genre you have) or parents of children and teens. Extended family, their friends and parents of adults abuse too, that includes emotional and verbal.

4. Both spouses can be abusing each other, including physically – and both are abusers, and both are victims. Look up co-dependancy.

5. Emotional and psychological abuse of woman over man, is abuse.

And finally a few insights from Brene Brown, Daring Greatly РHow the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent and lead.

When shame becomes a management style, engagement dies.

Vulnerability is based on mutuality and requires boundaries and trust.

Vulnerability is about sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them.

Vulnerability without boundaries leads to disconnection, distrust and disengagement.

We need to feel trust to be vulnerable and we need to be vulnerable in order to trust.

The result of this mutually respectful vulnerability is increased connection, trust, and engagement.

Thanks for your time.

 

This Journey

If I could draw a picture of

This journey travelled on my own,

What story would it tell you,

Which colours would have shown?

 

The beginning would be darkness

New realities unseen

Goals obscured and jaded

Mist and fog my only scene

 

But with you, my eyes are opened

You each shine light on paths ahead

Darkness fading in the wake

Of information shared

 

I see movement, light and colour

A future hope for me and mine

You each brought hue and shade and pigment

If left alone, no sun would shine

 

Thank you all for being part

Of this journey of my life

And for the pieces of your own path

That brought promise into mine.

 

 

15/1/2015

For SPEVI

 

Tidal

Rise and fall

Light and dark

Ebb and flow subsiding

Ripple, rumble

Dip and swell

Constant wax and waning

 

Ever moving

In and Out

Contained within a border

Unnatural force

Imposed upon

Disrupting created order

 

Tempests pass

Reducing swell

Repelling inundation

Return to scene

At one-time viewed

Revising demarcation

 

19/11/2014

The World Just Changed

A changing world,

of yours or mine,

to me it’s all the same

 

Renewed, restored or altered,

dismantled or reset

Normality will never be

as before, by change beset

 

By some memories

I am tainted

By some

I’m coloured in

The outline of my changing path

Contains it all, within

28/10/2014

The Thorns of Freedom

The thorns

Of grief and woe

Of trial and misery

Of shame and doubt

Of darkness, hopelessness, helplessness

 

The pain

Of laceration

Of piercing

Of lancing

Of pressure, puncture, sunder

 

The relief

Of baggage

Of irritation

Of criticism

Of angst, distress, mistrust

 

The freedom

Of peace

Of hope

Of faith

Of the scarred, healed, restored

 

26/10/2014