Please don’t make uninformed assumptions about my needs or requirements.
My peers and I will learn prejudice from good-intentioned ignorance.
Please don’t demand my independence without teaching it.
My peers and I will learn dis-ability.
Please don’t demand I ask for or receive help at your demand.
My peers and I will learn that I’ve no right to my own life and choices.
Please don’t decide my contribution based on your time constraints, energy level, prejudices, fears, and assumptions.
My peers and I will learn my only right is to live by another’s leave.
Please don’t decide what provision you can offer me after the funding’s been spent on everyone else’s needs first.
My peers and I will learn that my needs are wants, and not necessity.
Please don’t decide to ‘do for me’ what would make you feel good, important, needed, helpful.
My peers and I will learn that how you make me feel is irrelevant.
Please ask me what my needs or requirements are, or someone who has already found out what my needs are.
You can then meet the ones you are equipped and/or employed to.
Please ask me what independence means to me, or someone who has already found out what independence could mean and how it can be achieved for me.
You can then make informed choices about teaching it.
Please ask if I want/need help, and what help that might be.
You can then ‘help’ instead of hinder me.
Please ask me what contribution I would like to make.
You and I together can then negotiate and problem-solve our mutual contributions.
Please ask yourself and/or us all how our funds will best meet the needs of the group, school, community, family, country…
You and I will then each be acknowledging and meeting each other’s needs.
Please ask me how I feel.
You may develop:
empathy more so than sympathy
compassion more so than frustration
growth more so than ignorance
community more so than isolation